I've been practicing your method since before I listened to your podcast so the way I explain it would be with empathy, it's nice to see it explained in a better way as a lense. Any time I don't understand a message and the messenger insults me the best way I can respond is to say "just because my perception of the subject is different does not mean that it is wrong" And any time I don't understand I find it easier to "decode" If I put myself (the best I can) in their shoes and try to understand their perception, and the best way I have found to do that is to ask more questions, so it's very frustrating when someone doesn't answer the questions you help you better understand and instead they shut down and give up. I wish everyone would listen to this. My sister and I have been at war with each other being 9 years apart in age and her concept of "busy" Is very different than mine, so we clash a lot, in short I feel like it she could communicate to me by also listening then our relationship would become better. So I completely understand why you say that communication can improve our connections. It just sucks that some times wisdom takes too long and we fall short and miss out on some relationships because the only way for that person to understand is through an experience that takes time. I don't know if that makes sense but I enjoy your podcast and I will continue to listen.
6 years ago
I've been practicing your method since before I listened to your podcast so the way I explain it would be with empathy, it's nice to see it explained in a better way as a lense. Any time I don't understand a message and the messenger insults me the best way I can respond is to say "just because my perception of the subject is different does not mean that it is wrong" And any time I don't understand I find it easier to "decode" If I put myself (the best I can) in their shoes and try to understand their perception, and the best way I have found to do that is to ask more questions, so it's very frustrating when someone doesn't answer the questions you help you better understand and instead they shut down and give up. I wish everyone would listen to this. My sister and I have been at war with each other being 9 years apart in age and her concept of "busy" Is very different than mine, so we clash a lot, in short I feel like it she could communicate to me by also listening then our relationship would become better. So I completely understand why you say that communication can improve our connections. It just sucks that some times wisdom takes too long and we fall short and miss out on some relationships because the only way for that person to understand is through an experience that takes time. I don't know if that makes sense but I enjoy your podcast and I will continue to listen.